June Cleaver and Playboy: Our air-brushed ideals of motherhood

“What kind of mother do you want to be?” she asks. Not me, another she. I hate this question. It’s in cahoots with: What kind of person do you want to be? Well…thanks for asking…I want to be fit, successful, bright, well-read, tidy, organized, sexy, assertive, giving, open, fair-minded, strong, emotional (but not too emotional) … Continue reading

Respect your child’s needs, respect yourself OR How co-sleeping with a sleep regressing son taught me to trust the program

We just went through a few weeks of restless sleep with Bodhi waking 5-10 times a night needing comfort, food or to eliminate after sleeping through most nights for months (except where he was sick or too busy to eat all day). So finally, I Googled “restless sleep toddler” and there is a predicted sleep … Continue reading

Hate attachment parenting? Maybe it’s because you would suck at it

Advocates of attachment parenting quip that it’s a lazy way to parent. I am known to be one of those cheeky bastards. No bottles to wash. Roll over and nurse while sleeping. No crying babies. No expensive strollers and cribs. Watch me nurse while jogging, createns. Wheee! I believe some people’s resistance to attachment parenting … Continue reading